Tim Ferriss quotes in his ted talk "Why you should define your fears instead of your goals" the famous Stoic Roman Philosopher Seneca:
We suffer more in our imaginary, then in reality.
Being stoic in an ever changing and uncontrollable world means to accept what you can't influence and control what you can control: Your Mind. With rational thinking we can create better outcomes and change our environment and the world around us.
Another important aspect in decisions making is to consider, how people around you change as a result of your decision.
The following self-reflections, I share with my private clients, are guiding you to improve your decisions making to create the success and happiness you want.
I control my mind before making decisions.
I make wise decisions because I take time to evaluate the possible outcomes of my actions. Actions have consequences; therefore I plan mine with care.
Making choices abruptly in the heat of the moment often leads to regret. I shield myself from shame by being quick to listen and slow to speak. Reacting in situations often has negative consequences because that is when feelings take over reason.
By giving myself time to cool down, I enable myself to think clearly and logically about situations. Once I have reached an objective state of mind, I weigh the pros and cons of the actions I am considering.
In my mind, I walk through the events that may follow after my decision. When I play scenes in my head, I can get a better idea of how things may work out. I use this information when making choices.
A large part of making wise decisions is to speak with other people who have been in similar situations. By listening to the experiences of others, I learn about actions and consequences.
When I become informed on a subject, I equip myself with knowledge to make wise decisions. I read books, ask questions, and pray or meditate about my decisions before I make them.
It is important to me to make decisions that benefit those I care about as well as myself. Although I know I cannot always please everyone around me, I strive to be considerate of the people I love.
Today, I choose to pause before making important choices, and consider a number of possible outcomes. I ask for help and seek guidance in decision making from people I respect.
1. What important decision do I need to make right now?
2. Who can I ask for guidance?
3. Why is it important to give myself time and space for objectivity in the decision-making process?
How do Highly Successful People Make Decisions?
Highly successful people tend to make decisions quickly and rarely change their minds.
Do you have these traits - or do you struggle to make decisions and then wafﬂe back and forth afterward? Having a decision making process to follow can be a faster and more effective alternative.
Try this proven process to make wise decisions:
- Set a deadline and stick to it. Is spending another week in turmoil really going to help you make up your mind?
- Make a list of pros and cons to clarify your choices. Draw a line down the middle of your page and put the pros on one side and the cons on the other for each option.
- Avoid allowing fear to paralyze you. A fear of change can prevent you from seriously considering any of your options and keep you from making any decision at all
- Which option is most supportive of your long-term goals?
- Project into the future and imagine how you'll feel about your choice
- Realize that it doesn't matter (much). When you're faced with a couple of good choices, either choice may work out ﬁne. Simply making the choice and following through consistently will yield great results.
Silke Glaab (aka SilkCelia) is a psychologist (MA) who helps executives, entrepreneurs and experts to be more resilient to stress and dramatically improve their thinking and feeling so that they enhance their performance and leave a legacy in their companies, their lives and the world.
Silk uses rapid transformation therapy to help clients to transform the roots of a presented issue within minutes while using neuroscience to boost brain power and emotional intelligence to create mindful behavior and decision making in all areas of life.
Silk holds a master degree in psychology and has worked for over 20 years as a trainer, consultant and counselor in divers industries in Germany, Kenya, and Dubai. She is personally trained by the celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer and the neuroscientist Prof. Dr. Kennedy.