Emotions

6 Tips How To Raise Low Self Esteem

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What Causes Low Self-Esteem?

 

"I want to improve my online visibility but don’t dare make videos to show myself in photos."

Thank you very much for this important question that will help so many others too.

We all can recall the fairy tale when the queen/king gets challenged by the mirror that there is someone else who is prettier or more handsome or better.

Nowadays online presence has replaced that mirror.

For most people this is a daily battle: Someone is always better and we feel that we are not enough or perfect.

Who says that? Who is that voice in the mirror?

In the past maybe a caretaker, peer, teacher…

And now?

You.

The voice is your own voice judging your appearance, talent, intelligence.

Self-Esteem: Take These Steps To Feel Better About Yourself

 

There are many ways how to deal with the voice in your head. Let’s take a negative thought that gets in your way often e.g. I am not attractive enough.

 

1.Suppress it - not so good as it will push itself to the front in moments when you feel not being in control.

 

2. Challenge it - Ask yourself if the statement is a fact and if it is 100% true most of the time. If it is not 100% true all the time, answer NO. If it is true 100% of the time, answer YES and ask yourself, if this belief is supportive or productive for you.

 

3. Contradict it with evidence: Come up with a positive thought that could be more productive and supportive for you. For example: “I am facing new people every day. They never reclined because of my looks. Indeed, they trusted me and enjoyed my company.

Back it up with three statements that give you credit saying your positive thought.  Examples: “10 customers wrote a great statement about me and my services.“I shared a video of me on FB and people got really engaged.”

 

4. Root it up: Find the root source of your negative belief program. It can be a belief you have created during your childhood, a belief that was given to you through your ancestral line, or was implanted by society or past life experiences.

The key is to dig to the power knot that holds all beliefs together and smash it. Closing all neuronal connections of that neuronal network by using the Brainboss Method.

 

5. What your fear has cost you: Make a list in your journal what fears has cost you and the world not to share your views and mission.

 

6. Face the mirror: Stand in front of the mirror and speak these positive words:
I (state your name, am proud that you … (state 3 pots of pride).
I (state your name), forgive you for … (state 3 points for forgiveness).
I (state your name), I commit to you that… (state 3 commitments).

Write in big letters on your mirror: I am enough.

Or look daily into the mirror, focus on one eye and say “I love you" 10 times.

 

Summary

The voice is created between your ears - in your head - and sometimes it sits on your shoulder…

Take back your control. You are the director of your life’s theatre… with these tips you take up the lead and give your voice another message.

 

WHICH TIPS ARE YOU PUTTING INTO ACTION?

-> Share your experiences in the comments below.

Interested?  Let’s work together.

Do you need to make some changes at work, a different job, or a more satisfying relationship? Could it help you to speak to a professional? 

My goal as a coaching psychologist is to provide rapid and long-lasting changes for goal-seekers. No matter where you are in the world, the sessions are held online on a secured health line.

With my unique ground-breaking BrainBoss Method you are able to uncover the deeper roots of thoughts, feelings and behavior AND instantly Rewire your brain for success ad well-being.

An over 15-years career in counseling and coaching provides you a safe space to for your personal transformation. 

Contact me today to learn how I can help make things better!  www.brainbossmethod.com

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6 Ways To Tame Your Emotions

How To Tame Your Emotions

You Can Control Important Meetings From Within

 

In my position I often have important meetings in which I have to represent myself. It should be routine by now, but such situations still make me uneasy and uncomfortable. What can I do?

 

Thank you very much for your openness. The biggest issue most leaders face in such situations are the feelings and emotions that come with it.

Based on your framing of the meeting the internal alarm system signalizes a potential threat and reacts with an automated stress response that’s not even in your conscious control. As a consequence you feel uncomfortable and uneasy and don’t react in the way you had intended. And sometimes even in ways you judge yourself after.

If your internal system is on fire, you can’t hold a board meeting in the same building.

There are some ways top performers/leaders are doing before and during the meeting.

Neurohacks to regulate your emotions and your response 

 

1.Change the frame. If you label the meeting as something important where you have to shine or even deliver a negative message, it puts pressure on you and the circumstance. If you now label it as an “exchange of information among people with a positive intention”, how does this make you feel now?

 

2. Anchor yourself in the present moment. Feel your feet firmly on the ground, and imagine roots going from your feet into the ground. Feel deeply rooted. Additionally, imagine a tree trunk from your buttocks downwards. This simple exercise gives you not only stability but also lets you better focus on the meeting.

 

3. Get panoramic. Expand your eyes to both sides to get a panoramic view. With a panoramic view you can take in more information about what's actually happening in a conversation. In contrast in a stressful situation you tend to concentrate on a particular thing.

 

4. Breathe like the seals. Use a specific breathing technique to get into a more relaxed state and buffer the sympathetic response. Breathe in through your nose in two stages: starting from your belly up to your chest. Then exhale with an audible breath expressing relief. Combined with the panoramic gaze you have an instant tool to stay calm and concentrated.

 

5. Label Your emotions. Be in your body to sense what is going on there. Emotions are energy in motion that are creating sensations in your body like tension, tightness, numb etc. It is then another brain region in the insula area of the mid-brain that interprets these sensations as feelings. And at this point you can gain control. Label the feeling and sensation in your body: “I feel…. (overwhelmed, not understood etc.)” or “I sense that my … (belly, fist, chaw etc.) feels (tight, tensed, numb etc.). You will realize that the energy will shift as you separate yourself from your emotions. You are not your emotions anymore.

 

6. Color the scene. If you feel that you are not acting the way you intended, set a stop signal and color the whole scene with your favorite calming color. With your imaginary eye, splash the color all over the people, the table, the walls… until your feeling shifts to a neutral zone. From here you can do the panoramic gaze and the breathing to encourage the parasympathetic system for reset.

 

Summary

With all these neurohack tools from grounding over gazing to coloring you are in a better leading position to focus your attention on the other person or persons and respond to answers and create a conducive environment.

 

As you have read this information what is your favorite tool?

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Interested?  Let’s work together.

Do you need to make some changes at work, a different job, or a more satisfying relationship? Could it help you to speak to a professional? 

My goal as a coaching psychologist is to provide rapid and long-lasting changes for goal-seekers. No matter where you are in the world, the sessions are held online on a secured health line.

With my unique ground-breaking BrainBoss Method you are able to uncover the deeper roots of thoughts, feelings and behavior AND instantly Rewire your brain for success ad well-being.

An over 15-years career in counseling and coaching provides you a safe space to for your personal transformation. 

Contact me today to learn how I can help make things better!  www.brainbossmethod.com

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