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5 Ways To Be an Empathetic Leader

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Developing Empathy - A buzz Word in Leadership Development

 

I have been in leadership positions for 5 years now. I don’t want to come across weak. Why should I develop empathy?

I can understand your point of view that an empathic leader could come across weak. It depends how you define empathy. 

We are wired as social beings. Empathy has a crucial place in our evolutionary history to create social bonding in a versatile environment.

Empathy is either the sensations and feelings we’re getting in response to the emotions of another person or understanding other people’s perspective or feelings.

In my opinion these are crucial skills of a leader. It reflects to others how you are perceived: insensitive, protective,  demanding or collaborative and integrating.

Have you ever asked yourself how your own feelings and emotions could be picked up by people around you? Your own uncertainty and fear being transferred to the whole team?

Or how insisting on your own point of view could hinder other ways of problem solutions and manifest the way of least resistance.

Doing something about empathy now, could change the coherency of your team.

Let me share with you 3 tips how to be more emphatic and be perceived as a great leader:

5 Empathetic Tips For Effective Leadership

 

1.Listen actively. Listen to the other person as everything they’re saying is secret information. Notice what is also transmitted with the message (feelings, intentions). Be rather an observer than a critic who is already looking for the next argument or question to respond.

 

2. Don’t interrupt or edit: Hold on to your temptation to interrupt the person to bring the massage to the point. This allows the speaker to fully express their view and point. Make it a goal for yourself to repeat the original information.

 

3. Respond to the person: Go beyond the story and respond to the person behind the story:  “Wow. I can really feel your enthusiasm and commitment!

 

4. Paraphrase: Take up the information and make it your own. Use your own words to mirror back what you have understood and what you have picked up from the emotions.

 

5. Bring in your opinion: When you bring in your point of view let it be information instead of pretending you have the truth: “In my opinion” or “I heard someone say.”

 

Summary

Empathy is a skill that can be learnt.

If you apply these tips into your work life you will discover an increase in the quality of outcome, better team coherency and better performance. 

 

PS:

Be surprised when your 360 feedback improves

Source: Jeffrey Allen (hearing your own filters)

As you have read this information what tip you want to follow?

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4 Instant Ways To Have A Better Mindset

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You Create your own Reality with your Mind

 

"I really try to tell myself that I will get a job again. But there’s always a voice telling me: It won’t work out. The work situation is really bad. And I’m over 40. What can I do?”

Thank you very much for this important question. What if I told you, that this voice in your head is your own voice. And this voice can tell you anything about how ugly you look, that things won’t work out, that you’re not qualified or that you are amazing, brilliant, ready to receive etc. 

It is your choice which of these voices you want to listen to.The mind cannot hold two conflicting beliefs at the same time. Therefore, you have to choose. Which one will you follow?

Let's look at four ways how you can reset your mindset for a better outlook.

Proven Tips For a Better Mindset

 

1.Make your thought a funny comic character

Take this voice out of your head and put it on your thumb or on the floor. Now imagine it as a funny cartoon character like Dagobert Duck chatting with you in its funny voice about all the bad things it has to say. Will you listen to its “chatter”?

 

2. Question your thought

Start a debate with your thoughts: “Interesting. From where did this come from? Who told you this? How did they come to this conclusion?” Then you can bring arguments for your antidote based on life experiences like “I was unemployed before. It was not my best time, but also not terrible. I stayed open minded and positive and in the end someone came from nowhere and guided me to my job.”

 

3. Choose the right words

Your subconscious mind is programmed to do exactly what you tell it to do or to be. If you fill it up with negative words about yourself and the situation, it will give it back to you as commanded. It believes you. Therefore, be wise with choosing words that lift you up and make you who you want to be: “I am getting it. I am brilliant. I am enough…”

 

4. Good or bad - who knows

Let me tell you an old Chinese story about a farmer who used an old horse in his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer’s neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills, and the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. He replied, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”

Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone again sympathized with the farmer over his bad luck. But the farmer’s reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and drafted every able-bodied youth they found. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they let him stay.

Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?

It is often our labeling of the situation that creates all the negative feelings associated with it. Identify the situation that you have labeled as bad. 

Now write this question: “Could this turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to me?”

Write down your thoughts.

Also write down: “Is there anything I can do to make it the best thing that happened to me?”

 

Summary

Whatever is created in your reality happens between your ears: in your mind and brain.

It is up to us how we create this reality by using mindfulness, re-framing or dialogue with our mind. In the end the best thing is to observe rather than giving it any meaning.

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Interested?  Let’s work together.

Do you need to make some changes at work, a different job, or a more satisfying relationship? Could it help you to speak to a professional? 

My goal as a coaching psychologist is to provide rapid and long-lasting changes for goal-seekers. No matter where you are in the world, the sessions are held online on a secured health line.

With my unique ground-breaking BrainBoss Method you are able to uncover the deeper roots of thoughts, feelings and behavior AND instantly Rewire your brain for success ad well-being.

An over 15-years career in counseling and coaching provides you a safe space to for your personal transformation. 

Contact me today to learn how I can help make things better!  www.brainbossmethod.com

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